THE ECOLOGICAL SELF
In my last blog post, I explained that the ecological self forms a deep part of our identity. It goes beyond the confines of the foundational beliefs and concepts we inherited from our family and culture. And can even stretch beyond our own life experiences.
Remarkably, when these unconscious fields of influences are dissolved we are able to adopt an ‘I belong here’ attitude to life as opposed to the ‘do I belong here?’ approach that far too many of us experience.
As always, please be sure to meditate, breathe and bring yourself into the space of the heart before embarking on self-enquiry.
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Tuning into the ecological self is essential for those wishing to dissolve unhelpful, or unhealthy, family patterns and negative energetic connections. Once these inherited elements are cast off, we often experience an expansion in our ability to reframe challenges and remain open to new possibilities and experiences. This openness can lead to deeper, and more diverse, connections as well as personal and professional growth. While a new found ‘I belong here’ attitude replaces the existence of Imposter Syndrome.
Regarding The Ecological Self, we are examining the signals your body is sending you, in response to the personal and professional relationships in our lives.
How do you feel when you walk into a space such as a networking event?
Are you able to differentiate between what your head (rational brain), heart (emotional brain) or gut (intuitive brain) are telling you? And can you use this information to make wise decisions, learn from the past and avoid unhealthy patterning?
Do you know the importance of clear, honest communication? Do you know when to set boundaries, or when it’s best to respectfully walk away from relationships?
The goal is to identify the relationships that align most with your current focus. And to open your awareness of those relationships that require a more strategic management plan. The decision to let go of a relationship must come from careful consideration and a respectful approach is needed.
For example, if we have a particularly absorbing time at work approaching, clearly communicating your temporary withdrawal from social engagements and highlighting your need for assistance with familial responsibilities will ensure that those around you are able to support you. This simple act of keeping your inner circle “in the loop” avoids misunderstandings and empowers your friends and family to play an active role in bolstering you.
Levels of Understanding
If you are familiar with my work and in particular with my model of emotional self-inquiry The 6 Selves™, you will know that there are three levels of understanding that inform connections to the self and how it manifests:
Level 1 – Intellect (Mind) – How we comprehend and make sense of the world around us
Level 2 – Emotion (Body) – How we physically feel the experience
Level 3 – Energetic (Spirit) – How we connect in to something greater than ourselves
Ecological Self – Emotion (Body)
In this post, we are looking at the Emotion (Body) and how this connects to the Ecological Self.
If you are sensitive to energy or consider yourself to be an empath, you likely process emotion through your body. If this is less natural for you, simply replace “feel” with “think” and use your mind to support any visualisations that enter your space of awareness.
Please ask yourself the following prompting questions. You will notice they are repetitive in nature. Please know they are designed this way to ignite deeper personal inquiry.
- How does my body feel when I surround myself with people in my personal life who I feel understand my point of view?
- Regarding the people I surround myself with in my personal life, how does my body feel when I understand their point of view?
- How does my body feel when the people I surround myself with in my personal life show empathy and compassion towards me?
- Regarding the people I surround myself with in my personal life, how does my body feel when I display empathy and compassion towards them?
- How does my body feel when I surround myself with people in my professional life who understand my point of view?
- Regarding the people I surround myself with in my professional life, how does my body feel when I understand their point of view?
- How does my body feel when the people I surround myself with in my professional life display empathy and compassion towards me?
- Regarding the people I surround myself with in my professional life, how does my body feel when I display empathy and compassion towards them?
Though much of what we explored here is intuitive and logical, I hope that the practice of making space for gentle self-enquiry has opened some possibilities for you in your personal and professional life.
My next post will delve further into the Ecological Self with regards to how it connects to the Energetic (Spirit) at a level three understanding.
For more information on how to work with me to go deeper into the benefits of The 6 Selves™ and the outcomes you can achieve when you focus intentionally on these areas visit https://debbiezita.com/coaching/